April 7, 2026
Ep98: How To Increase Our Aura
Here are 10 tips on how we can increase our "aura"; our presence perhaps, when we're around folks. In a meeting, walking into a room, at a party, etc. It helps us be more confident in a group setting, and people truly do notice. Not sure if I concur with all 10 of these, but thought I'd throw them out there regardless as they are interesting and, hopefully some (if not most) we can all use in a group setting. Let me know your thoughts and... I love all y'all!
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Hey there.
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How are you today?
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Specifically, how are you?
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As I always say, I hope well.
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Let me know in the comments if you would.
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And also, before we get started, if you have any ideas for me or if you have any criticisms, hopefully they're constructive.
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But I'll take them anyway and get them.
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Your feedback means a lot to me.
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Steve Rebear, SMFR the Podcast.
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This is episode number 98 of the audio version.
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And we also have 270 some YouTube charts up there on YouTube on the SMFR the Podcast channel.
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So please check those out.
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I know if you're, you know, I you probably have, and I hope you find some to your liking.
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And as I always say, these little reminders help me, and I hope they help you, because I forget these things.
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You know, if I don't read a book or or pick up a reference book, Magic of Thinking Big or, you know, uh anything like that, I I I forget, and then my day goes right out the window.
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But I have to have these reminders, I have to remind myself and and yourself as well.
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And I try not to be preachy.
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I just want to let you know stuff.
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And if things come up on the interwebs that I find you're interesting, I'll let you know like this one.
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How to increase your aura.
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I guess that's your presence when you walk into a room or in a meeting or just gathering with friends.
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We all have an aura.
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Some are stronger than others.
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And some of us sometimes we don't want to have an aura, we just want to go hide in the corner, right?
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Hey, Ben there done that.
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In fact, I did it yesterday.
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You might do it again today somewhere.
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So but anyway, how to increase your aura.
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Now, some of these you may agree with and some you may not.
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Eh, we'll go along.
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But give me your feedback as as as we go, if you don't mind, in the comments.
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And number one is smile with your mouth closed.
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Hmm, I have a hard time doing that.
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I mean, I just love to smile, and I just love people, so there you go.
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But um, okay, I I can see where that would be.
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Increase your aura.
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Um, don't talk about your plans, show people the results.
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Well, yeah, but sometimes we're really excited about things and we want to share them with people.
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Not in a braggadocious sort of a way, but just like, hey, I I'm gonna do this, or I bought a bike, or I'm, you know, this or that, or I learned a new song, I hope you like it, stuff like that.
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And but then show the results, you know, sing the song or play it for 'em, or whatever it might be.
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Read a book in public places, okay.
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Yeah, it depends on what the book is, right?
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But um that's interesting too, because it shows, well, that you want to be left alone somewhat, but it does increase our and nod instead of saying yes.
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Oh, yeah, I can see that.
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Especially if someone's speaking, you don't want to interrupt them, you just want to let them know you're paying attention, right?
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So so we nod and and and go along with the conversation.
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Number five, don't make yourself available all the time.
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That's a good one.
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I'm guilty of that.
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Somebody'll ask me to do something, and and I've I've learned over the years.
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Just don't say yes, or don't say just say, I'll think about it, I'll get back to you, or something like that.
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Or if somebody asks you to do something, no, if it's somebody a loved one or somebody that you really care about, you drop everything for, that's different.
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But just favors and all that stuff.
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And I get that a lot, playing music and and um, you know, public speaking and stuff like that sometimes.
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And I hate to say no, but sometimes you have to say no for your own good, right?
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Save ourselves from ourselves.
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Uh number seven, protect your energy.
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Oh, number six first.
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Don't talk too much about yourself.
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That's a good one too.
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And that's two ears, you know, one mouth and all that, so we should listen.
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And I had lunch with a guy yesterday.
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Okay, I was having a couple beers, lunch substitutes for beer substitutes for lunch.
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But and this guy, I told him his name's a friend of mine, Jimbo.
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And I said, Jimbo, you know why I really enjoy spending time with you because you listen.
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You're not waiting for me to finish a sentence so that you can say, Well, this happened to me.
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And that that's a gift, isn't it?
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When we truly listen to people, instead of just waiting for them to finish so that we can tell them, Well, that happened to me too, and this happened as well.
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So stuff like that.
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Um, number seven, protect your energy.
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Pause and take a deep intentional breath before entering any space.
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Now that makes sense, doesn't it?
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For going into a meeting or if whatever we're doing, maybe like in my case, starting a music show, that to me that's water off a duck's back.
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I don't get nervous about that stuff, but I can see where you need to sometimes just suck it up and you know, and take a breath and then walk in with confidence, right?
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Which is number eight.
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Walk in with calm confidence and never rush your movements.
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You know, haste makes waste and all that stuff, and I'll start knocking crap over if I start getting too too antsy or all that stuff, and my ADHD kicks in and then it's off to the races.
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Tequila fixes that.
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Just kidding.
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No, yes, it does.
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Anyway, number nine, mix silence your power.
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Speak only when necessary.
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Now that goes along with listening, right?
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When people are talking, we listen, and we don't always have to be jabbering on about something.
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And sometimes I'm just quiet and Beverly will be like, Why aren't you talking?
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Well, I'm not mad, I'm just quiet.
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Because usually I'm not quiet.
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I I I guess that's the moral of that story.
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But sometimes we're just quiet and we're reflecting, maybe, right?
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And it just sometimes that screws people up though, I'll tell you.
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If I'm not swinging from the chandeliers, people think that I'm, hey, Steve, okay.
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I actually sat down to play music some time back because I left my guitar strap at home, and everybody thought, Is are you sick?
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What's wrong with you?
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You know?
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Usually I'm jumping off tables.
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Try not to do that much anymore, though.
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So anyway, number 10 is master your reactions.
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Emotional control is magnetic.
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Isn't that the truth too?
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If we come off pounding the desk or or being very demonstrative, first of all, I'm gonna knock a glass of water over, or worse, a beer.
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You know, so we have to just measure our reactions and and fold our hands, whatever, put them to our side or whatever, and and or or maybe put them to our chin like we're thinking about something.
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That makes people think we're smart.
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I think so anyway.
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And number eleven, if you want to strengthen your aura and heal your body, elevate yourself.
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Just think positive thoughts about yourself.
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Get up in the morning and say, hey, I am strong, I am tough, I've this I've got this day.
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And that alone, that first step in the morning, it will get you going.
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And then the rest of the day, it stays with you, hopefully.
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And if it doesn't, reset and start it again, right?
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This is a little longer podcast than usual, but I thought it was kind of important that I get this stuff out there.
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So I hope it's important that well, it's important to me that you listen to it, and equally important that I apply these things in my life.
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Maybe not all of them, but they are food for thought, right?
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Anyway, I'll let y'all go, let you go specifically.
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I thank you all so much, and I thank you specifically for listening.
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We got more to come.
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We're gonna episode 100 of the audio version coming up, and it'll be a doozy.
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I'm gonna have a special guest, so I'm just gonna tease that out there for you.
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Might be you.
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Let me know.
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It's MFR of the podcast.com.
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Again, love all y'all.
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Take care.
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